My life is similiar to yours, but here is my solution

1. Ask help from hu*****and. For example, ask him to take kids to park or somewhere else, then I have some free time to do my own things ( such as take a good bath). Ask him to send or pick up kids when he can, so I have a fresh morning or relexed evening once a while.

2. Hired a part-time helper. Now we have a part-time helper working from 4 to 8 PM Monday to Thursday. She is Chinese.Her job is to clean house, cook dinner and help with other housework. I pay $600 per month. When I got home, everything is ready and all my time is play with kids.

3. Work. Find a job closer to home if can. Now I have to drive 2 and half hours on the road everyday, which is wasting time to me. If I can use these time either on working or at home, my life will be much better. So I decided to find another job within 10 miles, even my current job is very good.

These is my 2 cents.