I am facing similar problem: stay or leave?

These problems are so frustrating. From what I can see, maybe it's a good idea to let your hu*****and go back first for a while and see how it is going on each of your sides, because there are still quite some uncertainties for both of your jobs. But many people also say letting the hu*****and go back to China is highly risky because there is a very high chance to have some affairs. So I understand it's really tough to make a decision. If you don't want to take the risk (of letting your hu*****and going back alone), I presonally think you should convince your hu*****and to stay because the family, being together with your beloved people, are the most important.