Flamenco_girl’s dance bug definitely caught on me. Though I did not take action of dancing, I watched three dancing related movies during Thanksgiving holiday. The best of them was “Shall we dance?” starring by Richard Gene, Susan Sarandon and Jennifer Lopez.

The story was simple. Maybe because of mid life crisis, or just trying to color his routine life, John started ballroom dancing lessons. He met one of the coaches Paulina, a beautiful girl who traumatized by her ex-boyfriend’s accident. Teaching and learning inspired everybody and changed their personal life. Dancing revealed their deep confidence, encouragement and love to life. (Except John, the Latin guy starred by Stanley was very impressive).

Maybe ballroom dancing was one of the best trainings for male and female relationship, in which the man and the woman had to collaborate with each other. “In order to keep image and stay together, the woman can only dance the steps the man leads” (Flamenco_girl’s words). So picking up the right partner was the most critical issue. “Choosing a dancing partner is much more difficult than a life partner” Flamenco_girl told me. Who would be qualified for the right one? Let chemistry decided.

Chemistry is amazing. The world could not exist without chemistry. So does relationship. I really doubt a relationship could be nurtured without any chemistry. And I do believe chemistry varies in establishment and maturation of a relationship. At the very beginning, there is initial chemistry, which serves as a prerequisite rather than a guarantee for a possible relationship. Later on, the chemistry either secretes more or stops generating, which will consequently lead to different outcomes.  Sometimes, the chemistry only allows two people to be dancing partners or working parterns. In other scenario, they might end up as intimate friends or even life partners. To maintain a relationship, chemistry does need to be carefully nurtured and fine-tunely modified to induce new chemistry, which keeps a long term relationship. (One of my friends named the chemistry as FATE, in Chinese YUAN).

Back to the movie, dancing refreshed the chemistry between John and his wife. My eyes welled up with tears when John met his wife in his tuxedo with a red rose in hand. As life partners, the chemistry was no more than respect, trust and understanding.   

(Just some sparks after watching the movie Shall We Dance and the drama Grey's Anatomy.)