最近最火的關鍵詞可能就是“躺平”,前幾天,在“邵恒頭條”聽到一個有關“躺平”的文章,但是反轉的是如何成為“躺平”的反麵,這個就是哈佛教授範德維爾提出的蓬勃生長理論。 ![Human Flourishing, Human Relationships, and Living Well | Dr. Tyler J. VanderWeele at SIU 2020 - YouTube](https://i.ytimg.com/vi/j761mqnxiyA/maxresdefault.jpg)
蓬勃生長,Flourishing,也被翻譯成興旺、繁盛,甚至心花怒放。哈佛大學公共健康學院泰勒•範德維爾(Tyler VanderWeele)教授,在論文裏詳細闡述了什麽才是“蓬勃生長”的狀態,哪些生活要素會決定人們能不能達到這樣的狀態。 範德維爾提出了5個維度,分別是: 1. 快樂感和滿意度。 2. 健康,包含心理健康和身體健康。 3. 人生意義和目標——比如說你是不是覺得自己平時在做的事情有價值,你有沒有清晰的人生目標。 4. 性格和品德——比如你是否願意延遲滿足?當你遇到困難的時候,你還有多大意願去為了公共利益而不是私人利益而作出選擇。 5. 親密關係——比如你是否對自己的友誼滿意?你和伴侶的關係是否能給你滿足感? 我們值得對生活有更大的野心。給生活設定更多元化的目標,以一種“全局觀”來規劃我自己的人生。 ![On the promotion of human flourishing | 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學習之後,我們不妨列舉一下如何成為一個蓬勃生長的中年人的管理目標。 下麵就是有關Human Flourishing Measures的評估問題清單 0分為非常差/完全不認同,10分為非常好/完全讚同。 1. 總體來說你對生活的滿意度是多少? 8分 總體比較滿意,對於物質沒有太多奢好,對於精神也有一定追求,孩子們也讓人省心,既不用躺平,也不需要再奮鬥,應該是過有一定質量有尊嚴的生活的時候了,如果有什麽不太滿意,就是很多時候自己做事情的效率太低了 2. 一般情況下,你感覺自己有多快樂? 8分 多數時候,感覺還是比較快樂,可以做自己喜歡的事情,有自己喜歡的愛好,交了自己喜歡的朋友,偶爾會有抑鬱的時候,需要靠ZEN音樂來開解 3. 你給自己的身體健康打幾分? 8分 每年都做身體檢查,前幾年家庭醫生說有糖尿病前期,這幾年注意減少米麵飲食,今年的體檢已經排除了這個唯一的隱患,當然體重還是需要更好的控製,而且感覺精力也大不如從前了 4. 你給自己的心理健康打幾分? 9分 多數時候是開開心心的,年輕時脾氣急躁,但是人到中年,一切都看透,雲淡風輕,既不去和別人比較,也不去和別人抱怨 5. 總體來說,你覺得在生活中做的事情有價值嗎? 8分 工作算是做有意義的事情,可以影響到很多人和機構,業餘也參與很多的義工活動,對家人可以盡心照顧,對朋友可以盡力幫忙,對社區活動可以積極參與,生活不一定要大富大貴,但是的確做著一些有意義的事情 6. 對這個表述你有多認同:我知道我人生的意義/目標是什麽。 9分 我想如果20多歲時以為人生需要追求的權錢色,人都中年就知道了人生的真正意義不是擁有財富,而是如何在這個世界上留一下一些自己對於這個世界積極正麵的足跡,但願我留下過一下足跡,還能讓一些人有點回憶 7. 對這個表述你有多認同:我無論在什麽場景下,都會做好事,即便有時候有現實困難。 8分 不敢那麽肯定,我不是聖人,但是一直謹記家父的教誨,絕對不去做損人利己的事情 8. 對這個表述你有多認同:我總是能為了長期的快樂放棄短期快樂。 8分 應該說,多數時候還是能夠做到的,但是有時候在美食麵前會放棄原則,事後後悔不已 9. 對這個表述你有多認同:我對我的友誼和人際關係很滿意。 8分 我雖然不是人見人愛,花見花開那種,但是還是非常有朋友緣,多數時候都能狠人和睦相處,人到中年,多了一個原則,不要試圖說服別人,也不要輕易為別人改變,人生苦短,最重要的是取悅自己 10. 對這個表述你有多認同:我的人際關係帶給我的滿意度符合我的期待。 8分 當然,不管是從小學開始就認識的那種比穿開襠褲稍微大一點開始的朋友,到高中的校友,直到大學的校友,研究生時候的朋友,直到工作中的夥伴,社區裏麵的朋友,做義工時認識的朋友,合唱團的團友,我的朋友圈的原則一直是,合則聚,不合則散,好聚好散,不去刻意討好別人,要不需要別人刻意討好我 總結: 總分82分,算是中等偏上,如果有什麽需要改進的,那就是多鍛煉,多閱讀,少看微信,人生不可能圓滿,我隻想做一個蓬勃生長的中年人。 ![The Human Flourishing Program at Harvard University by Creative Cause - issuu](https://image.isu.pub/191112161914-9e4af1ad2230c4bcb7c4dbc9a391202e/jpg/page_1_thumb_large.jpg)
很明顯,上麵的指標裏麵沒有任何一項是有關財富的,當然不是說財富不重要,但是財富隻是一個基礎,或是附加價值,不是價值本身,沒有一定的財富基礎是不行的,但是在追求人生意義的同時創造和享受財富才更加有意義,這個也是我的學習心得。 也歡迎你用上麵的指標來看看自己是否也在蓬勃生長呢。
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